(TMI = Too Much Information)
When engaging in a conversation with another mother, it really seems like nothing is off limits. Episiotimies, tearing, forceps, stretch marks, breastfeeding - it is all fair game. In my eleven months in this role, I have had waitresses divulge their birth stories, talked about stitches on the stairs of a rugby club with a new mum and confessed to a few breastfeeding souvenirs on this blog. Women can basically divulge all about their pregnancy, birth and mothering experiences and I won't bat an eye. What cesarean sections aren't normal to discuss in the grocery checkout line?
Before becoming a mother, I would have NEVER, EVER discussed anything surrounding my perineum with anyone. I would have blushed if my doctor brought it up. But now, please, what do you want to know?
During pregnancy, a woman really can't help but get in touch with her body, all its functions and overcome any squeamishness. Even husbands and partners have to toughen up. For a while, placenta was referred to as polenta in our house because Andrew hated the word. (You can guess, we don't eat a lot of polenta anymore.)
Among the company of other mothers, mummies can really open up about their experiences, challenges and triumphs. I for one think this is tremendous! How grand that we live in time where we can learn from one another, find comfort in each other and just vent without shame. Motherhood can be a lonely, challenging place and the fact that us generation of mothers can discuss most anything is a real blessing. For instance, on this blog I have discussed a cracked nipple, some incontinence issues and postpartum depression all without batting an eye!
I'm so grateful for my mummy friends who I can garner wisdom through and whom I can commiserate with. I love that I can talk freely with my own mum about most anything. From day one of my pregnancy, she has said that my generation is smarter than hers was and she chalks it all up to how open women are and how there isn't a stigma tied to a lot nowadays. Motherhood is a club with so many members, and I think it's only fair to discuss experiences with honesty, respect and openness. For the survival of mothers everywhere, it's essential to keep dialogue flowing.
Sure, to those passing by nipple shields and mucous plugs may sound like unnecessary lunch discussion, but to those around the table, it's just a day that ends with "y".
Do you disagree? Do you think certain topics are off limits? Can you openly discuss your experiences or are you a bit shy about it? In the spirit of the topic, let's discuss.